Introduction: As I discussed on my last blog post titled ‘sexual polarity: the social magnetic tendencies between men and women’, a very damaging core primal wound inflicted in a young boys early life is not having a supportive & strong male role model. However, something which is equally as damaging is when a boy is… Continue reading Repolarising the feminised man: the narcissistic mother-son wound + reversing your default social polarity + inter-sexual dominance hierarchies
HOOK After recently watching legendary Steven Spielberg film ‘HOOK’ I felt compelled by the meaning behind the mythos. Essentially Pan is a misfit-like teenage warrior who rebels against adult pirates in a fictional paradise known as ‘Neverland’. The cornerstone of his legend is he leader of lost boys who all refuses to GROW UP! From… Continue reading ‘Puer aeternus’: Peter pan syndrome
12# Iron rules of strong self-esteem The purpose of this article I came up with these iron rules the other day as a reference guide for myself to remind me of the fundamentals self-esteem. An ‘iron rule’ is a law of power. These iron laws are basically organisational principles to help restructure your thought patterns… Continue reading 12# Iron rules for strong self-esteem
The integrated male archetype I have always been inspired by strong male role models who have worked on themselves to the point they have achieved a level of equilibrium in their personality & accepted themselves for all of who they are. Where they have a balance of power: warmth / autonomy: interdependency. However, this type of… Continue reading 30# Principles to harness your masculine polarity: a guide for men to embody & amplify their healthy masculinity.
Introduction This was a massive revelation for me discovering what a actual boundary was. I specifically found out what a boundary was when I was 21 (I’m nearly 26 now). I have been aware of the concept for many years but after a hard breakup I realise now the power of practising healthy limit setting… Continue reading Lines in the sand: guide to healthy boundary setting. Protect yourself, increase respect from others & get what you want.
Introduction + resources to check out After recently reading Pete Walkers book titled ‘The tao of fully feeling: harvesting forgiveness out of blame’ it really triggered my fascination between the dynamics of ‘healthy blame’ & its opposite by definition ‘healthy forgiveness’. Pete Walker is a masterful author in discussing practical & informative knowledge on c-ptsd… Continue reading Chronic self-blame & forgiving abusers too rapidly
Introduction This is probably one of my favourite topics within the whole childhood trauma recovery movement. It was first introduced to me by a man called ‘John Bradshaw’. I have read 3 of his books and was an amazing teacher. The premise of ‘self-reparenting’ is you begin to meet your needs within the present moment… Continue reading Inner-guardianship work: compassionate self-reparenting
Within the book I am writing currently I provide a healing map to navigate through the complex maze of trauma induced in childhood. Given that to at least to small degrees, most people have some form of maladaptive tendencies gained from their family of origin unit which don’t particularly serve them within their current adult… Continue reading Top 10 highly recommended childhood trauma recovery books
My personal experience with CPTSD Over the past year or so I have dedicated myself to healing & gaining a greater understanding of CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress) induced in early childhood. When I was 21 (I’m 25 now) my father went to prison for attempted murder I could see there was something different about… Continue reading Core primal wounds: discussing the specific emotional childhood wounds affecting you in your current stage of adulthood
Something which is unbelievably prevalent within complex childhood trauma survivors (suffers of c-ptsd) is having a ‘violent inner-gollum’ or what most refer to as the ‘inner-critic’. Freud referred to this as the ‘superego’. The superego was described as being used to internalise parental figures rules and dialogue. Used to allow the child to follow the… Continue reading Emotional flashback management: dethroning the inner-critics power over the psyche