Follow the leader: the importance of leading in relationships

Flexible cultural sex roles:  This article predominately focuses on how men can lead & initiate in heterosexual relationships. Though I do think its perfectly healthy for both men & women to make decisions within an relationship. Highly polarised gender roles typically can verge on being overly controlling, possessive & dysfunctional because they have an extremely one-sided imbalanced… Continue reading Follow the leader: the importance of leading in relationships

Social invincibility: establishing superior frame control

The stronger reality absorbs the weaker one: ‘Frame’ is the contextual perceptional narrative you operate from in a social interaction. When somebody has a ‘strong frame’ it is the byproduct of having a strong reality or having a ‘strong sense of self’. When somebody has a strong sense of identity, or has high levels of… Continue reading Social invincibility: establishing superior frame control

Installing a red pill lens: seeing the sexual marketplace in high resolution

The map is not the territory:  blue pill conditioning  The matrix analogy is often used to describe disengaging from an false artificial system of deception and illusion, into entering a world of reality and hidden truth. Most of us live never fully seeing the covert power tactics being played against us within the social &… Continue reading Installing a red pill lens: seeing the sexual marketplace in high resolution

Repolarising the feminised man: the narcissistic mother-son wound + reversing your default social polarity + inter-sexual dominance hierarchies

Introduction:  As I discussed on my last blog post titled ‘sexual polarity: the social magnetic tendencies between men and women’, a very damaging core primal wound inflicted in a young boys early life is not having a supportive & strong male role model. However, something which is equally as damaging is when a boy is… Continue reading Repolarising the feminised man: the narcissistic mother-son wound + reversing your default social polarity + inter-sexual dominance hierarchies

Sexual polarity: social magnetic tendencies between the masculine and feminine

Fulfilling biological imperatives: survival and replication value + hypergamy The biological premise of attraction at its reactor core is ‘survival and replication value’ or aka ‘SRV’. Women are unconsciously seeking men with high survival value, and men are unconsciously seeking women with high replication value. Survival value is simplified as anything that assists with the… Continue reading Sexual polarity: social magnetic tendencies between the masculine and feminine

‘Puer aeternus’: Peter pan syndrome

HOOK After recently watching legendary Steven Spielberg film ‘HOOK’  I felt compelled by the meaning behind the mythos. Essentially Pan is a misfit-like teenage warrior who rebels against adult pirates in a fictional paradise known as ‘Neverland’. The cornerstone of his legend is he leader of lost boys who all refuses to GROW UP!  From… Continue reading ‘Puer aeternus’: Peter pan syndrome

12# Iron rules for strong self-esteem

12# Iron rules of strong self-esteem The purpose of this article I came up with these iron rules the other day as a reference guide for myself to remind me of the fundamentals self-esteem. An ‘iron rule’ is a law of power. These iron laws are basically organisational principles to help restructure your thought patterns… Continue reading 12# Iron rules for strong self-esteem

30# Principles to harness your masculine polarity: a guide for men to embody & amplify their healthy masculinity.

The integrated male archetype  I have always been inspired by strong male role models who have worked on themselves to the point they have achieved a level of equilibrium in their personality & accepted themselves for all of who they are. Where they have a balance of power: warmth / autonomy: interdependency. However, this type of… Continue reading 30# Principles to harness your masculine polarity: a guide for men to embody & amplify their healthy masculinity.

Lines in the sand: guide to healthy boundary setting. Protect yourself, increase respect from others & get what you want.

Introduction This was a massive revelation for me discovering what a actual boundary was. I specifically found out what a boundary was when I was 21 (I’m nearly 26 now). I have been aware of the concept for many years but after a hard breakup I realise now the power of practising healthy limit setting… Continue reading Lines in the sand: guide to healthy boundary setting. Protect yourself, increase respect from others & get what you want.

Chronic self-blame & forgiving abusers too rapidly

Introduction + resources to check out  After recently reading Pete Walkers book titled ‘The tao of fully feeling: harvesting forgiveness out of blame’ it really triggered my fascination between the dynamics of ‘healthy blame’ & its opposite by definition ‘healthy forgiveness’. Pete Walker is a masterful author in discussing practical & informative knowledge on c-ptsd… Continue reading Chronic self-blame & forgiving abusers too rapidly